I've been dreaming again....
I wouldn't normally think twice about what I dream about, let alone share it with blogosphere, if the theme in the dreams was not recurring. For the past 1 week or so, I've been dreaming about men. Big deal, you might think, women dream about men all the time! But my dreams have been strange and steamy. Every single dream I have had this week - and they have been coming every day with unnerving consistency - has been of me doing things with a man. Every night I have dreamt of a different man, and all of them except one have been men from my past....
And this is where it gets interesting: in the dreams, there is very little talking between me and the men. There is a lot of kissing and making out though, although it never leads to sex. For some reason, I seem to make sure that we don't cook the ngengede*. Wednesday's dream is a case in point: the man with whom I was enjoying fleshly relations with was a clone or a twin of my boyfriend - he spoke, looked, walked, and smelt like my boyfriend but was not my boyfriend. Anyway, this clone (imposter, some would call him) suggested, when things got really spicy, that we get a room at a nearby motel. I did my tribesmen justice (we are known for short necks and short tempers) and gave him a few ideas on where he could go and stick it, and walked off in a huff hence ensuring that the ngengede would not be cooked. I mean what did he think I was, a flesh peddler??
What do you know? I manage to be self-righteous, even in my dreams.
One recurring thing though - besides the making out that never leads to sex - is the overwhelming sense of guilt I felt while dreaming. It's almost like I felt that what I was doing in the dreams was wrong; you know, a subliminal knowledge of infidelity.
Anyway, when I woke up this morning after dreaming of a serious make-out session with the first boy I ever kissed - whom I haven't seen in almost ten years - I started wondering if maybe there's something that my sub-conscious is trying to tell me. So I went to my trusted friend, Google, to see if she could help me find out what my dreams meant.
I found a couple of dream interpretation websites and tried to search for interpretations of dreams on 'ex-boyfriends and sex' but I could only get interpretations on 'sex'. Go figure! Well apparently, at least according to Predictions: Dream Dictionary, men dream more about sex than women and the way women dream about sex often reveals the conflict that many women feel about the good-girl/bad-girl taboo. Also, sexual dreams are not about sex exclusively. Often they are about how we perceive people and how we think others are perceiving us. The Dream Moods Dictionary offers a more direct interpretation of sexual dreams: this may be your libido's way of telling you that it has been too long since you had sex. It may also indicate repressed sexual desires and your needs for physical and emotional love. To dream that you are having sex with an ex or someone who is not your current mate denotes your reservations about embarking in a new relationship or situation. Apparently, it is common for people who are getting married to 'experience especially erotic adventures with partners other than their intended spouses'. This may be due to the intensity of one's sexual passion with their fiance(e) or it might relate to the new roles that the dreamer will be taking on and the uncertainty that may bring.
So, it turns out then, that this Kenyan has a libido that is crying out for lack of sex, repressed sexual desires, an ambivalence about sexual taboos and some reservations about embarking into a new relationship or situation?? Hmmmm.....
Right. What do you dream about?
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*Cooking the ngengede - an Urban Kenyan slang phrase used to refer to the art of making love; first heard of on Capital FM's 'the Jam' show!
I wouldn't normally think twice about what I dream about, let alone share it with blogosphere, if the theme in the dreams was not recurring. For the past 1 week or so, I've been dreaming about men. Big deal, you might think, women dream about men all the time! But my dreams have been strange and steamy. Every single dream I have had this week - and they have been coming every day with unnerving consistency - has been of me doing things with a man. Every night I have dreamt of a different man, and all of them except one have been men from my past....
And this is where it gets interesting: in the dreams, there is very little talking between me and the men. There is a lot of kissing and making out though, although it never leads to sex. For some reason, I seem to make sure that we don't cook the ngengede*. Wednesday's dream is a case in point: the man with whom I was enjoying fleshly relations with was a clone or a twin of my boyfriend - he spoke, looked, walked, and smelt like my boyfriend but was not my boyfriend. Anyway, this clone (imposter, some would call him) suggested, when things got really spicy, that we get a room at a nearby motel. I did my tribesmen justice (we are known for short necks and short tempers) and gave him a few ideas on where he could go and stick it, and walked off in a huff hence ensuring that the ngengede would not be cooked. I mean what did he think I was, a flesh peddler??
What do you know? I manage to be self-righteous, even in my dreams.
One recurring thing though - besides the making out that never leads to sex - is the overwhelming sense of guilt I felt while dreaming. It's almost like I felt that what I was doing in the dreams was wrong; you know, a subliminal knowledge of infidelity.
Anyway, when I woke up this morning after dreaming of a serious make-out session with the first boy I ever kissed - whom I haven't seen in almost ten years - I started wondering if maybe there's something that my sub-conscious is trying to tell me. So I went to my trusted friend, Google, to see if she could help me find out what my dreams meant.
I found a couple of dream interpretation websites and tried to search for interpretations of dreams on 'ex-boyfriends and sex' but I could only get interpretations on 'sex'. Go figure! Well apparently, at least according to Predictions: Dream Dictionary, men dream more about sex than women and the way women dream about sex often reveals the conflict that many women feel about the good-girl/bad-girl taboo. Also, sexual dreams are not about sex exclusively. Often they are about how we perceive people and how we think others are perceiving us. The Dream Moods Dictionary offers a more direct interpretation of sexual dreams: this may be your libido's way of telling you that it has been too long since you had sex. It may also indicate repressed sexual desires and your needs for physical and emotional love. To dream that you are having sex with an ex or someone who is not your current mate denotes your reservations about embarking in a new relationship or situation. Apparently, it is common for people who are getting married to 'experience especially erotic adventures with partners other than their intended spouses'. This may be due to the intensity of one's sexual passion with their fiance(e) or it might relate to the new roles that the dreamer will be taking on and the uncertainty that may bring.
So, it turns out then, that this Kenyan has a libido that is crying out for lack of sex, repressed sexual desires, an ambivalence about sexual taboos and some reservations about embarking into a new relationship or situation?? Hmmmm.....
Right. What do you dream about?
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*Cooking the ngengede - an Urban Kenyan slang phrase used to refer to the art of making love; first heard of on Capital FM's 'the Jam' show!
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